lover of beauty, words, ideas, art & flesh, in a state of aporia


lover of beauty, words, ideas, art & flesh, in a state of aporia

Some of the scripts I’m working out unabashedly indulge in rom-com cliches.

Because when you center trans women, the cliches suddenly become audacious.

True Trans

The series ‘True Trans’ is like Laura Jane Grace herself: tender, generous, authentic, badass, beautiful. I’m watching in a cafe right now, smiling through tears.

"best of both worlds"

So, my face and makeup, my long hair, my 36C chest, my long legs, my wardrobe and jewelry and heels, the pitch and lilt of my voice, the softness of my skin, the movies and shows I choose to watch, the way I decorate my apartment, my girlfriends and the way we talk and laugh, the easy way I cry and the resilience I show, how I care for those I love, the way I hunger for a man and the ways I’m satisfied by them, my very being …. all of this is the best of a woman’s world.

And my cock is the best of a man’s world.

Have you really thought about what you’re saying?

A Transgender Activist on the Authenticity of ‘Transparen | Indiewire

IndieWire interviewed me about good, bad, and fave trans representations on tv.

Angelica & I are watching Baggage Claim, which is another of those ‘your true love was right beside you the whole time’ movies.

I lean over and take Angelica’s hand. “You know what this means?” She raises an eyebrow. “You’re going to end up marrying me.”

She raises her eyebrow yet further and says, “You going back to being a man?”

I grasp her hand a little tighter and say “Not a chance in hell.”

On Being A Transgender Woman in an Abusive Relationship

One of my closest friends, the person I talk to or text with about four times a day, on whom I lean for comfort, kindness, and a guaranteed laugh, the one who has probably said “I love you” to me more times than anyone in my life, just so happens to be a famous porn star.

The public often forgets the humanity behind celebrity, and this is particularly true for sex workers, whose real personalities and lives are willed away from consciousness to better facilitate projected fantasies. Any complexity or trauma behind the softened image is furthered rendered silent by an aversion to contributing further to the assumption by anti-sex work advocates that all workers are driven by damage, a dynamic also familiar to trans people.

All of which is why I ask that you take a moment to read Bailey’s intimate and honest account of a previous abusive relationship. It was hard for her to write this, to re-live the experience, to be so vulnerable in public, one that mainly knows, and only wants to know, the smiling face and displayed body. She did so to help others, one of the many reasons I hold her dear.

TransTech Apprenticeship Program - Fall Session

I’m proud to be one of 15 people committed to raising $15k for the launch of Trans Tech Social Enterprises. Founder and CEO Angelica Ross is my friend, sister, and roommate, so I’ve had a front row seat to the development of this venture. Angelica and her team are passionately committed to addressing employment issues in the transgender community, particularly for those most at risk. One of the many unique insights informing this effort is that trans people need more than just technical training. They need to be empowered, have access to community, and regularly engage with people who share similar experiences and have achieved success.

Many activists, particularly white ones like myself, recognize that trans women of color face disproportional rates of every conceivable social ill, but we struggle with how to make a difference. In our zeal and earnest desire to help, we all too often substitute our wisdom for those actually impacted, rather than listening and supporting their own work. This is a concrete opportunity to actually do what we talk about. Please join me in supporting Trans Tech today by giving what you can, and sharing the campaign with your own networks. Thank you!