lover of beauty, words, ideas, art & flesh, in a state of aporia http://smartassjen.com/


SmartAssJen

lover of beauty, words, ideas, art & flesh, in a state of aporia http://smartassjen.com/


The longer I’m a woman, the cheaper my underwear gets and the less of my legs I bother shaving.

On Being A Transgender Woman in an Abusive Relationship

One of my closest friends, the person I talk to or text with about four times a day, on whom I lean for comfort, kindness, and a guaranteed laugh, the one who has probably said “I love you” to me more times than anyone in my life, just so happens to be a famous porn star.

The public often forgets the humanity behind celebrity, and this is particularly true for sex workers, whose real personalities and lives are willed away from consciousness to better facilitate projected fantasies. Any complexity or trauma behind the softened image is furthered rendered silent by an aversion to contributing further to the assumption by anti-sex work advocates that all workers are driven by damage, a dynamic also familiar to trans people.

All of which is why I ask that you take a moment to read Bailey’s intimate and honest account of a previous abusive relationship. It was hard for her to write this, to re-live the experience, to be so vulnerable in public, one that mainly knows, and only wants to know, the smiling face and displayed body. She did so to help others, one of the many reasons I hold her dear.

TransTech Apprenticeship Program - Fall Session

smartassjen:

I’m proud to be one of 15 people committed to raising $15k for the launch of Trans Tech Social Enterprises. Founder and CEO Angelica Ross is my friend, sister, and roommate, so I’ve had a front row seat to the development of this venture. Angelica and her team are passionately committed to addressing employment issues in the transgender community, particularly for those most at risk. One of the many unique insights informing this effort is that trans people need more than just technical training. They need to be empowered, have access to community, and regularly engage with people who share similar experiences and have achieved success.

Many activists, particularly white ones like myself, recognize that trans women of color face disproportional rates of every conceivable social ill, but we struggle with how to make a difference. In our zeal and earnest desire to help, we all too often substitute our wisdom for those actually impacted, rather than listening and supporting their own work. This is a concrete opportunity to actually do what we talk about. Please join me in supporting Trans Tech today by giving what you can, and sharing the campaign with your own networks. Thank you!

Here’s a good brief description from their Communications Director of the kind of work Trans Tech will be doing: “… we are starting our own small graphic design and web-coding firm, with a twist. Our services will directly benefit the trans community, by creating employment and educational opportunities in an affirming space, that will teach tech skills, strengthen talents, and be a launching pad. Every week we will guide our apprentices through a series of lynda.com videos, personal and professional projects, assignments, and their input on our direction will be valued and utilized. A structure where we respect peoples pronouns, disclosure, and hold space for the discrimination they face. A hierarchy that is compromised of trans people and especially trans women of color. These are the values I will promise, but in order to this we need you our community, to take action and make this campaign successful.”

TransTech Apprenticeship Program - Fall Session

I’m proud to be one of 15 people committed to raising $15k for the launch of Trans Tech Social Enterprises. Founder and CEO Angelica Ross is my friend, sister, and roommate, so I’ve had a front row seat to the development of this venture. Angelica and her team are passionately committed to addressing employment issues in the transgender community, particularly for those most at risk. One of the many unique insights informing this effort is that trans people need more than just technical training. They need to be empowered, have access to community, and regularly engage with people who share similar experiences and have achieved success.

Many activists, particularly white ones like myself, recognize that trans women of color face disproportional rates of every conceivable social ill, but we struggle with how to make a difference. In our zeal and earnest desire to help, we all too often substitute our wisdom for those actually impacted, rather than listening and supporting their own work. This is a concrete opportunity to actually do what we talk about. Please join me in supporting Trans Tech today by giving what you can, and sharing the campaign with your own networks. Thank you!

THE FACTS ABOUT SYNTHIA-CHINA BLAST & LAVERNE COX

labrujamorgan:

blue-author:

testosterlonely:

queerpunkhamlet:

testosterlonely:

defendtranswomen:

  • SYNTHIA-CHINA BLAST DID NOT RAPE EBONY NICOLE WILLIAMS. There was never any evidence to support the allegation that she did, and she was acquitted after witnesses discredited the claim.

  • SYNTHIA-CHINA BLAST DID NOT MURDER EBONY NICOLE WILLIAMS. She had no role in…

idk y’all i def need some sources here. Laverne could have made a much better choice in whose letter she read and I wanna believe this but until I’ve got some better sources I’m gonna try and refrain from making decisions because I really wanna be able to defend Cox but right now it’s not looking so hot. urgh.

google… dot… com..?

from what I’ve heard laverne cox was looking for synthia to be put in a women’s prison… even though she dealt with the body of a murdered child… because all ALL trans people should have their genders recognized bc it’s not just a thing reserved for “good” trans people

I’m not saying she deserves to be in a men’s prison, just that I wanted more information before I made a judgement??

What judgment do you think needs to be made here?

If your stance isn’t that only innocent trans women should be put in women’s prison and be given medical care, then exactly what question do you think needs to be answered here before unequivocally supporting Synthia’s rights?

The idea that you need information before you can make a judgment is predicated on the idea that you need to make a judgment, which comes from the notion that every situation cries out for your opinion and every ~*controversy*~ can be improved by you rendering your informed opinion.

Let go of these ideas.

Trans women don’t belong in men’s prisons. If you believe in this principle, embrace it and amplify. Nothing more is required of you here.

of course its a white trans guy blech.

here’s the thing. trans women of color are criminalized just for existing. our bodies are a threat to cisheteropatriarchy and we are punished for it. there is often a panic around our bodies and what we might do to folks, that we might “trick” them that we are women and thus shatter their worldview.

but putting all that aside, prisons are not a safe place for anyone and need to be dismantled. Entirely. its not a matter of innocence or guilt. because prisons are not systems that work around guilt or innocence, even if they pretend too. Prisons are used to exploit primarily Black and brown bodies. they are completely colonial in nature and do nothing the stop crime. Rather it is an extension of the project of kill colonized people.

also, fuck you for being all “i wanna defend her but its hard”. you owe EVERYTHING to trans women of color. we started this shit. you are alive off of our backs. so you will show some damn respect and make sure that terfs and other transmisogynists don’t derail the important work that we are still doing.  

I just finished the first draft of six episode web series. Two of the main characters are trans women.

You know how you can easily avoid casting issues for trans parts?

Write them specifically for amazing trans people you know.

I cannot wait to see missrosscreative bring this to life.

Maybe if…

I appreciate that so many people have like and shared this short piece I wrote in rage one morning a year ago.

You all need know that it’s now one year later and there is still no justice for Islan Nettles. And that violence against trans women of color hasn’t slowed down. Media has improved, and it’s increasingly seen as inappropriate to misgender or mock trans women.

But men still aren’t admitting that they love and sleep with us, they are still driven by shame and stigma to terrible violence.

Trans women of color are still nearly absent from the leadership of the organizations and efforts that could make a difference in the lives of those most vulnerable. There is still very little data on the conditions of trans people, and there is no national strategy on how to address violence in the community.

Let’s not forget Islan, or the far too many who suffered violence before and after her. Let’s not forget how much more there is to do.

smartassjen:

Maybe….maybe if every man who has ever hired a trans escort, if every boy who has ever beat off to trans porn, if all the guys I and thousands of others have hooked up with via Craig’s List, if the millions who fetishize our bodies, who enjoy us on our knees in bathrooms, who press us against hotel windows, who lay with us in our beds, if the men who adore me and my sisters, but only behind closed doors, would STAND THE FUCK UP AND SPEAK OUT…maybe 21 year old women just enjoying an evening out with friends wouldn’t be beat to death.

Maybe if all of you who read this, our allies and friends and colleagues and family, would call out when others make jokes at our expense, even when we’re not around, if you’d tell advertisers and producers and journalists and writers and comics that you’re not okay with them making trans women nothing but the punchline of jokes or tragic tossaways, that you know us, that we’re not disposable….maybe groups of people would stop feeling so free to harass me and my sisters, maybe crowds wouldn’t just laugh when a man spits at me, or just watch when two young men chase me down the street yelling “shemale”…maybe if you ALL stood up and said enough, maybe a young woman just being herself wouldn’t be beat to death in the streets of the supposedly best place on earth to just be yourself.


Maybe if all the gay men who act as if equality means marriage, if all the white feminists who only serve those that look like them, if all the queers who drop “TWOC” like a shibboleth but don’t know or talk to or walk beside any actual trans women of color…maybe if all of you saw what was happening here and how your actions allow it, how every moment of silence, of waiting for people of color to start the conversation about race …maybe this child could have enjoyed a few more years of being beautiful among us.

A 21 year old was beat to death in our streets. It happened because she is a woman, and of color, and transgender. It happened because our men won’t admit they love us, because our friends aren’t speaking out against the thousand little dehumanizing actions of others, because our own “LGBT” community isn’t comfortable talking about race and class.

This has to change. Now.

http://www.dnainfo.com/new-york/20130822/central-harlem/transgender-woman-dies-after-savage-beating-cops-say#video_modal_13772731841756

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